The #1 Habit to Acquire to Be Successful

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Hands down, the #1 habit you can acquire to become successful is developing a morning routine!  Having a morning routine is not just about getting up early and performing activities, it’s setting an intention to put yourself FIRST.  It’s a statement that You are Important!

It’s important to include something for your mind, body and soul in your morning routine. The quality of your routine is more important than the quantity.  Your morning routine can be as long (or short) as you deem necessary.

Some of the benefits I receive from my morning routine includes:

  • Productivity
  • Creativity
  • Mental Health

It sets the tone of my day by putting myself first.

The activities I perform in my routine includes: prayer, LIVE broadcasts (for accountability), eating, blogging (and/or journaling), social media posts, studying, working out and meditation.

My day begins FIRST with gratitude and setting my intentions for the day.

If you’re having trouble getting up early, get accountability.  For example, if you want to include working out early in your routine, arrange to meet someone at the gym or schedule a personal trainer to train you.

If you want to be more positive, optimistic and have control of your day, develop a morning routine.

If you’re not aware, I film a LIVE Facebook broadcast called “Transform Your Life in 15 Minutes!”  This is a great way to begin your morning routine.  It’s 5-minute exercises – one each for the Mind, Body & Soul.

Your Invisible Talisman

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We each carry around an invisible talisman with one side being PMA and the other side being NMA (negative mental attitude).  The default is NMA.  This stems from our childhood.  A few years ago UCLA did a study and reported that the average one year child hears the word “No” more than 400 times a day!  In light of this, it’s important to set your intention EVERY morning by deciding to have a PMA.

Having a Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) is the link between success and happiness.

Here are 5 benefits to having a PMA:

  1. Boosts motivation
  2. Increases productivity
  3. Leads to accomplishments
  4. Boosts feelings of well-being
  5. Attracts others

Remember, your subconscious mind is a recorder that is recording everything you say or think.  The subconscious mind only knows the word “Yes”. By saying “I can’t do …..” your subconscious mind will agree with you which will ultimately result in you not being able to do it. Therefore, it’s important that you are careful with your words and thoughts.

How to Determine What You Really Want to Achieve

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Determining your purpose, what you want to achieve in life, can be a very difficult task.  You have so many choices and opportunities, so many different directions you can go.  It’s wonderful to have so many choices, but sometimes it makes choosing what you really want to even more confusing.

Purpose is the cornerstone of self-discipline.  With a clearly defined purpose you have a specific direction to where to focus your energy.

Today I’m going to share with you a 4-step process that will enable you to analyze the many options available to you and select the one major life’s purpose you want to achieve deep within your heart.

Step 1:  Limitless Wishing

This step involves using your imagination.  Close your eyes and imaging having anything your heart desires. What is it?  Write them down.  There’s no limit – you can have anything that you want.

Step 2:  Wishful Imaging

In this step, take one of your desires from above and imagine what your life would be like if it were true.  (Close your eyes for this step, also.)  What would your life be like?  What would you be doing?  What would you be wearing?  Who would you be hanging out with?  What would you be driving?  Get as detailed as possible.  Make sure you pay particular attention to any feelings that you may experience while imaging.

Step 3:  Creative Biography

For this step, you’re going to answer the following questions: Deep in my heart, what do I really want to do?  What is my purpose in life? What do I value above all else? What would I like to be remembered for?

After you’ve answered these questions, take out a pen and paper and write down your eulogy. Yes, you’ve read it correctly: your eulogy.  Put as much detail in it as you can.  What is it you would want it to say?  Does it include your birthday?  Your accomplishments? What you want to be remember for?  Have fun with this step.

Step 4: Write Your Personal Statement of Purpose

In this final step, you’re going to write down your statement of purpose.  You can be a broad as you like or detailed.  This step is meant to act as a focusing tool, not an actual blueprint for achieving your goals.

It may be helpful to read an example.  Here’s one taken from Amilia Earhart taken from when she was a child:

“When I grow up, I’m going to have adventures and show the world that women can be as heroic as well as men.”

These  4 steps will help you use your intuition and imagination to discover your major life’s purpose you want to achieve deep within your heart.

How to Get What You Want!

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Do you want to know how to get what you want? It’s simple.  Set goals.

Goals will help guide you to where you want to go.

However, it’s important that you have S.M.A.R.T goals.   S.M.A.R.T goals are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Results Oriented, and Time Specified.

Specific – Your goals should be specific.  Instead of saying you want to lose weight, define how much weight you want to lose.

Measurable – You should be able to tell quickly and easily if you’ve met your goal. Develop a set of criteria that will be indicative of success or failure in meeting each of your goals.

Achievable – Set goals that are challenging but that are not incredibly difficult to achieve. Keep in mind that a challenging goal is motivating, but an impossible one is demotivating.

Results Oriented – Your goals should focus on the results you want to achieve, and not the activities you will undertake to get there. For example, “improved communication skills” is a result; “participating in a communication skills workshop” is an activity. It’s possible to complete activities and not achieve the desired result.

Time Specified – Set deadlines for achieving your goals. Well-developed goals come with time limits.

In additional to having S.M.A.R.T goals, make sure you do the following:

  • Write down your goals.
  • Make sure you set goals in each area of your life: health, financial, family, mental and spiritual.
  • Make sure your goals don’t conflict with each other.
  • Keep your goals with you
  • List a reason you want to achieve each goal.

Once you have your goals set, do whatever it takes to achieve them!

The Fire Within – 7 Steps to Develop Iron-Willed Discipline

 

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STEP 1: Defined Purpose: “I know what I want to achieve!”

The power behind self-discipline is having a deep-seated core emotion that begins, builds and sustains the self-discipline mindset.  This emotion will be aroused when we have a defined sense of purpose.  We need to know what it is we want to achieve.

 STEP 2: Models of Possibility – “If they can do it, then it’s possible for me too!”

When we see others achieving the things that we desire, it lets us know that it is possible. The realization is this, “They’re just like me.  If they can do it, then so can I!”

STEP 3: Sensory Vision – “I see and feel myself doing it. Now I know I can do it!”

With a purpose and sense of possibility (Steps 1 & 2 above), now it’s time to forge a strong emotional driving force.  This is done by creating a sensory-rich imagination of what life will be like when we achieved what we desire.

STEP 4: Planning – “I know what I have to do to achieve it!”

Now it’s time to create a concise, step-by-step plan or blueprint.  It will include what resources are needed and how long it will take.

STEP 5: Learning – “I can learn the knowledge and skills I need to achieve it!”

This is the understanding that we can learn the knowledge and skills necessary to achieve our vision.  This understanding will open up a whole new world of possibilities which will intensify our emotional fire within.

STEP 6: Persistence – “No matter how long it takes or how hard it is, I can do it!”

Now the fire of emotion becomes so strong that we develop the strength and fortitude to persist through difficulties, persevere through physical exhaustion and pain and be resilient – or continually bounce back and recover from setbacks and disappointments.

STEP 7: The Fire Within – This is the emotional force that drives the self-discipline mindset.

All of the steps above combine to build the internal emotional fire that drives our disciplined behavior. Now we have obsessive desire, passion and energy that will sustain us throughout our journey.  We have created a dynamic self-discipline mindset!

Emotion unchecked is wasted energy.  Emotion harnessed is the fuel for self-discipline.

3 Types of Motivation That Rarely Work

 

 

downloadMotivation is defined as the force that compels us to action. It drives us to work hard and pushes us to succeed. Motivation influences our behavior and our ability to accomplish goals.

Type 1: Evangelical:

An example of this type is when a motivational speaker comes to town and does a speech that is truly inspiring. Everyone feels pumped up by the ideas and slogans of the speaker. Within the next few days, you put in more effort in your work and feel more motivated. However, this motivation starts to dwindle after an artificial peak – even if you have notes or an audio recording from the speech.

The reason why this approach doesn’t work, is because it depends on an external factor to get you motivated.  It becomes like drug addiction: with time you need more and more of an artificial stimulant to reach the same level of motivation.

Type 2: External Rewards:

An example of this type would be rewards from your boss at work.

The reason why this one fails is the same reason we discussed above in the previous type: it also depends on an external motivator. However, this one creates a child-like dependence with short-term spurts of motivation.

Type 3: Fear:

If you don’t perform well, something undesirable happens. (i.e., losing your job)

The reason why this doesn’t work is because you rapidly go into a burn-out stage and start resenting doing the work. Anger brings less productivity, and less productivity bring more fear and you get stuck in a vicious cycle.

These are 3 types of external motivations that provide short-term results.

In order the sustain your motivation, it must come from within.

It is not just important to have a road map, but also having enough fuel to get where you want to go.

The self-disciplined achiever has a strong sensory blueprint and feedback system. He begins his journey by asking himself: If I can have anything I can imagine, what do I want? What is my purpose?

Throughout his journey he imagines his goals and creates new ones once he achieves them, or changes his goals as his reality changes. This is where a lot people get side-tracked: when they are faced with hardships or undesirable circumstances, they think they have failed and give up.

The self-disciplined achiever uses his visualizations as a reality check – he simply adjusts his course of action to fit his new reality.

 

Do you have role models?

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Role models are essential in your pursuit of success.  They provide the inspiration, style, example, and strategy that will help you accomplish your goals.

When choosing a role model, it’s important to make sure he or she is worth emulating.

Here are 10 proven characteristics of a self-disciplined achiever.

    1. A STRONG SENSE OF PURPOSE
      I know what I really want in life and I know how I’m going to get it – I may have to give up some things but that’s okay because it’s worth it in the long run!
    2. SEEKS OUT POSITIVE MENTORS
      Inspirational role models provide examples of focus and consistent effort to achieve the desired objective.
    3. A SENSORY RICH IMAGINATION
      Don’t see things as they are and asking ‘why’, but visualize things as they can be and ask ‘why not’. Visualize the outcome, and what will the accomplishment of the goal will look like.
    4. POSITIVE SENSORY ORIENTATION
      Failure is NOT an option, and NOT a recognizable experience. If you can see it, it will be true for your mind, and you will accomplish it. Why? Because your mind doesn’t know the difference between visualization and reality.
    5. SELF-ASSURED – DEEP ROOTED BELIEF IN ABILITY TO ACHIEVE
      H ave a confidence in yourself. If you believe you can do it, it will be only a matter of time before it is done.
    6. ABILITY TO PLAN & ORGANIZE 
      How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time! Take a methodical approach by breaking your goals down into a step-by-step process.  Then consistently work on at least one thing every single day.  And make sure you check you progress regularly to ensure you are on track.
    7. ABILITY TO ACQUIRE ESSENTIAL KSAs WHEN NECESSARY
      You must have a commitment to become educated with the necessary knowledge, skills and abilities as it relates to the accomplishment of the goal.
    8. KNOWS THE VIRTUE OF PATIENCE
      See time is a tool. Getting to your goals is half the fun of it! Enjoy the journey of success including setbacks. Learn from your experiences.
    9. PERSISTENT AND PERSEVERANCE
      Do not give up in the face of persecution or setbacks. You need to develop a stick-to-it-ness in spite of rejection or negative opinions. Be relentless in pursuit of the goal.
    10. VIEW WORK AS PLEASURE
      Be genuinely excited by your goals. Be interested in learning.  Don’t take yourself too seriously.

How many of these characteristics do you embody?

Those that you do not have, you can acquire!

What is Stress?

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Today I’m going to define self-discipline, describe problems associated with the lack of self-discipline and describe some benefits of being self-disciplined.

When you hear the word “self-discipline” what do you think?

Does it conjure up images of strictness, long stretches of boring or irritating work, self-sacrifice or self-denial?

Well guess what? Nothing could be further from the truth.

Truly self-disciplined people are not bored, unhappy nor are they suffering from any kind of deprecations. In fact, they have learned to have true joy and satisfaction from achieving their most cherished goals and dreams.

So, what is self-discipline?

Self-Discipline is your ability to work systematically and progressively toward a desired goal until it is achieved.

It’s the power to say, “This is what I really want in life and this is how I’m going to get it and if I have to give up some other things, I will because it’s worth it in the long run.”

It is the main ingredient that makes success possible for anyone who dreams of achieving great things. With it, you can accomplish everything! Without it, nothing worthwhile or lasting can be achieved.

Why?

Because lasting success without sustained effort, planning, the seasoning of time and persistence is not possible. In other words, shortcuts and success gimmicks lead only to mediocrity, disappointment and failure.

If it’s so effective? Why don’t more people have it? The answer is because unfortunately we live in a quick-fix society where effort and dedication are not the norm.

The truth is, without sacrifice and effort, most people will fail at what they set out to do.

The good news? Self-Discipline is a skill that can be learned and converted into a habit.

Besides being able to accomplish anything you desire, having self-discipline has other benefits as well:

  • It will increase your self-confidence and empower you with determination, fortitude and strength.
  • It will give you a new passion for life because you will become more energetic and have more of a drive to achieve.
  • It will sharpen and refine your thinking and analytical abilities, and my favorite,
  • It will magnify your creativity. How? When your limitations are eliminated, endless possibilities and ideas will continually flood your imagination.

In conclusion, talent, education and intelligence are not the sole keys to success. Self-discipline is a skill that can be learned but excellence takes time. And if you take the time to make having self-discipline a habit, it will unlock your innate power to achieve.

How to Have a Growth Mindset

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A Story…

One day a man found a cocoon of a butterfly with a small opening. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole until it suddenly stopped making any progress and looked like it was stuck.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily, although it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man didn’t think anything of it and sat there waiting for the wings to enlarge to support the butterfly. But that didn’t happen. The butterfly spent the rest of its life unable to fly, crawling around with tiny wings and a swollen body.

Despite the kind heart of the man, he didn’t understand that the restricting cocoon and the struggle needed by the butterfly to get itself through the small opening were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings to prepare itself for flying once it was out of the cocoon.

Moral of the story: Our struggles in life develop our strengths. Without struggles we never grow and never get stronger, so it’s important for us to tackle challenges on our own, and not be relying on help from others.

Today’s transformational tips will assist in your growth:

  1. Get back to nature. Give yourself time in the woods, trekking in the mountains, walking in open meadows, or walking barefoot on the beach. When you take the time to drink in the beauty of the natural world, you will release your belief that things and accumulations are needed for you to feel complete.
  1. Give yourself the gift of a silent retreat every day, even if it is only for a few moments. Go back to that key of HIGHER AWARENESS — shutting down the inner dialogue — and know that this is your ticket to peace.
  1. Slow yourself down with moments of contemplative silence. That is, do nothing. In these moments, appreciate your body and all of your physical universe. Notice the inner waves of pleasure that you experience.

How to Get Peace of Mind

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Ego say, “Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.”

Spirit says, “Find your peace and then everything will fall into place.” 

Once there was a farmer who realized that he had lost his watch in the barn. This watch had been passed down for several generations and had sentimental values attached to it. After searching high and low among the hay for a long while; he gave up and thought of taking help from a group of children, who were playing outside.

The children hurried inside the barn, went through and around the entire stacks of hay but still could not find the watch. Just when the farmer was about to give up, a little boy came to him and asked to give him another chance. The farmer agreed and sent the little boy back into the barn alone. After a while the boy came out with the watch in his hand.

The farmer was both happy and surprised and so he asked the boy how he succeeded where the rest had failed. The boy replied, “I did nothing but sit on the ground and listen. In silence, I heard the ticking of the watch and just looked for it in that direction.”

A peaceful mind can think better than a worked up and pre-occupied mind.

Today’s transformational tips will help you keep peace in your mind:

  1. Attempt to remove all enemies from your thoughts. The same intelligence that flows through you, flows through all human beings. When you know that, you are connected to all, you cannot fathom striking out at others, let alone feeling hatred for them.
  1. Keep in mind that grievances bring turmoil, while communication brings peace. If you are angry at someone in your life, work at communicating with that person about your aggrieved feelings — no matter how difficult it maybe.
  1. In the midst of a tumultuous meeting or a frantic encounter with your children (or anyone for that matter), get up and excuse yourself for a moment. Give yourself five minutes to get centered, and ask God this question: “What is my purpose here, and how may I serve you in the midst of this confusion?”

Having a “peace of mind” is not a strenuous job, it is an effortless process!  So set peace of mind as your highest goal and organize your mind around it.

Own Your Health, Own Your Wealth, Own Your Life!