Why You Should Develop a Growth Mindset

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Do you want to have more fun in life?

Do you enjoy learning?

Do you want better relationships?

Would you like to improve your business?

Well guess what? A growth mindset is associated with all of these benefits and many more.

People with growth mindsets are open-minded and value the challenges of learning new things and finding new solutions.

So, what is a ‘Growth Mindset’? It’s the belief that you can grow.  In other words, it is based on the belief that your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts.

What are some benefits of having a Growth Mindset?

  1. Improves self-esteem
  2. Increase confidence
  3. Learn from your mistakes

How do you develop a growth mindset?

  1. Identify where you may have fixed mindset tendencies so that you can work toward becoming more growth minded.
  2. Learn to value the process over the end result – in other words, enjoy the journey.
  3. Provide regular opportunities for reflection – an integral step in your learning.

A growth mindset view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.   This simple attitude impacts your success, health, happiness, careers, and relationships.

 

Why We Judge – A Downside of Having a Fixed Mindset

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Do you say any of the following?

It’s hard for me to lose weight?

I’m not a natural athlete?

I’m not good with numbers?

I’m not creative?

I’m a procrastinator?

If you answered yes to one of more of these questions, you may have a fixed mindset.

According to psychologist Carol Dweck, a person has one of two mindsets: fixed or growth.

The way we evaluate our sense of worth, success and ability differs depending on our mindset. The fixed mindset person judges himself against others. In order to feel good at something, he has to be better than everyone else around him – or at least somewhere near the top.

A “fixed mindset” assumes that our character, intelligence, and creative ability are static – that means they believe that we are what we are, and that things don’t really change. This applies to both ourselves and other people.  It also applies to personality traits, capabilities and even self-beliefs.

For these people, intelligence is static so there’s a desire to look smart.  This leads to a tendency to:

  • avoid challenges
  • give up easily due to obstacles
  • see effort as fruitless
  • ignore useful feedback
  • be threatened by others’ success

What’s the big deal?

Fixed mindset thinking results in:

  • A false sense of superiority, undermined by a deep sense of self-doubt.
  • A feeling that failure permanently defines you as a loser
  • A need to prove yourself again and again
  • A desire to blame others or outside circumstances when things don’t go your way

Just to name a few…

Understand that the view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life.

Ultimately, your mindset influences everything from creative risk-taking, how you view feedback and whether or not you finish difficult tasks. In the end, it’s one of the greatest factors in determining whether or not you grow and improve in your abilities.

Remember, what we believe about ourselves can greatly influence our ability to get what we want out of life.

The #1 Thing That Will Determine if You’re Successful (or not)

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The number one thing that will determine if you’re successful or not is your mindset.  So what do we mean by “mindset”?  It’s literally a setting of the mind.  It’s the assumptions and expectations we have for ourselves and others. And these attitudes guide our behavior and influence our responses to daily events. This affects our health and well-being – even our success (or lack thereof) in life.

There are 3 studies that were done at Yale University that I’d like to mention to help me explain the importance of mindset.

The 1st study was done on patients that had thoracic surgery.  You don’t have to know much about this particular type of surgery to understand that recovery is very painful.  To help with the pain, the patients were given morphine.  1/2 of the patients had their morphine administered by a doctor at their bedside, while the other half received theirs by a pre-programmed timed drip in their IV.

Although both sets of patients received the same amount of morphine, the patients that had theirs administered by a doctor reported significant deductions in their pain levels. The other group that didn’t know they were receiving the morphine didn’t seem to experience the same benefit from the morphine.

The 2nd study consisted of a group of 84 hotel housekeepers in 7 different hotels across the country. Although they are on their feet all day, use a variety of muscles and burn an extraordinary amount of calories just doing their job, they didn’t consider it exercise. 2/3 third of the group reported not doing any exercise at all.

Again, the group was split into two. Both groups underwent a series of tests measuring weight, blood pressure, body fat and job satisfaction. One of the groups was given a 15-minute presentation that basically explained that their job was good exercise.  It outlined how much calories were burned during things like changing the linen and vacuuming.  The other group wasn’t shown the presentation.

After 4 weeks, both groups were tested and the group that was shown the presentation dropped weight, had lower blood pressure, body fat decreased and reported an increase in job satisfaction.  The other group that didn’t receive the information didn’t change.

In the 3rd study participates were paid $75 to drink a shake while being hooked up to an IV that tested their blood.  The researchers were tracking the hunger hormone, Ghrelin.  This hormone rises when we haven’t eaten in a while, signaling to the brain that it’s time to seek out food.  The result is that our metabolism slows down in case we don’t find the food.  The shake that was given to the participants was The Sensi Shake. It has 0 fat, 0 added sugar and 140 calories.  After drinking the guilt free shake, the participants Ghrelin levels dropped, but only slightly. This means the brain was signaled that some food was consumed, but not a whole lot.

A week later, the same participants returned and was told that they were consuming a shake called Indulgence.  This shake had 6200 calories, 30 grams of fat and 56 grams of sugar.

After consuming this shake, the participant’s Ghrelin level dropped significantly – 3 times the amount from the first shake consumed.

This result would seem logical because the amount of Ghrelin dropped in portion to the amount of calories consumed; however, in actuality, the participants were given the Sensi Shake!  In other words, despite what was told to them, the participants were given the same shake both times.

What does this all mean?

These simple studies prove that what you believe, expect and think determines your body’s response.

Consider your own life. What is your mindset?  How can you shift and alter it to have it be more beneficial to you?

THE CANCER CURE TO SELF-DISCIPLINE

Yesterday, I talked about the procrastination being the cancer to self-discipline.

Well guess what, it’s a habit – and like all habits, they can be unlearned.

Today we’re going to replace the habit of procrastination with the habit of action!

Specifically, I’m going to share with you two powerful time management tools that has help many people.

Before I discuss the two techniques, there are two things you must commit to first:

1. You have to agree to do something everyday for no other reason than you would rather not do it at all! You may need to REREAD that sentence.

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2. As soon as you start thinking, “Well, I won’t do that now, I’ll do it later,” – you must immediately do whatever it is you’re procrastinating about.

Do we have a deal? If so, continue reading…

Here are 2 Time Management Techniques to use to help you cure procrastinating:

1. Swish Cheesing
This technique involved dividing up your goal into small mini tasks. In other words, you poke holes in large tasks to make many smaller tasks. You get it? (It looks like Swiss cheese.)

For example: If a task takes you two hours to complete, you’ll break it up into 8 – 15 minute tasks or 4 -30 minute tasks.

2. Un-scheduling
Use this technique if you rationalize procrastinating by saying you don’t have time. For this one, you’ll need to create a table with 8 columns (Sun-Sat) and 18 rows with the hour-block listed starting with 6:00 am (or whatever time you get up and go to bed).

Now follow the following steps:
1. Fill in the hours that are occupied with travel, meals, work, meetings, regular recreation and other commitments. Only fill in time that must absolutely be devoted to life’s necessities. (Um, TV is not life necessity.)

2. Allocate free time (the empty boxes) to micro projects.

3. Let people know about your task-appointed time so there won’t be any interruptions.

4. Use colored pen or pencils and create a special name for the projects.

Procrastinating is a habit, and like all habits, it can be unlearned. Unlearning this habit is best by taking action. Use one or both of the techniques above to cure the habit.

THE CANCER TO SELF-DISCIPLINE

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The cancer to self-discipline is PROCRASTINATION!

So what is procrastination?

Simply put, procrastination is putting off either starting or completing something that you’ve consciously agreed to do.

Why Do We Procrastinate?

Well, if you’re a chronic procrastinator, you’ll find yourself in one (or more) of the following groups:

1.  Fear of Failure

If you’re in this group, you’re successful, but only to a point.  You set such high standards for yourself that you live in fear that you may not meet them.  This, in essence, cripples your efforts to succeed because you work less than your capacity so you’re never really challenged.  This way, you won’t “fail”.

2.  Fear of Success

This group is afraid of standing out from the crowd.  You don’t want to be seen as “different”.  If you’re too successful, you will outgrow marriage partners, family and/or friends; therefore, you limit your own performance by holding yourself back.

3.  Way of Rebelling Against Authority

If you’re a member of this group, you put off doing work because it gives you a feeling of control – typically an authority figure – like a boss.  You’re reacting to a fear of being controlled or dominated so you procrastinate to prove you are in power.

Did you identify yourself in one or more of the groups above?  Understanding the reason is the first step of overcoming procrastination.

HOW TO ACCELERATE TIME

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Have you ever been so engrossed in something that you became unaware of the time?  This concept of time passing by quickly is known as “time quickening”. It’s what happens to your perception of time while you’re in pursuit of your goals.

Yesterday, I talked about patience being the attitude to adopt when trying to achieve your goal.  Well, if you have long-term goals that’s going to take several years to see to fruition, you’ll want to take note of what I’m talking about today!

Today, I’m going to share the 5 steps that will help you accelerate time – so much so that it will pass by before you know it!

Here they are:

STEP 1: Find a working environment that is free of distractions and potential diversions.

STEP 2: Focus on doing one task at a time and stick with it until it’s completed or until you have finished as much or more of the task that you started out to do.

STEP 3: Plan to work uninterrupted for a significant amount of time – several hours if possible.

STEP 4: Don’t watch the clock as you work and don’t continuously compare how much you’ve accomplished against how much you still have to do.

STEP 5: Stop working when you’re thinking has become muddled due to fatigue.

The 5 steps listed above will accelerate time in such a way that it will seem like the span of a dream passed and the next thing you know, you have achieved your goals!

The Attitude to Adopt When it Comes to Achieving Success

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The great artist Pablo Picasso was once approached by an admiring women in a restaurant. Having recognized him, he asked him to draw something – anything on a napkin for her. She told him she’d pay him what he thought was fair if he’d provide her with this impromptu work of art. Picasso agreed and spent 5 minutes drawing a picture on a napkin. When he was finished, the woman picked the napkin up in delight.  She then asked him how much he wanted for the picture. Calmly he replied $10,000.  Dumbfounded, the women begin to argue with him that a picture drawn on a napkin that took only 5 minutes to draw couldn’t possibly be worth that much.  Picasso just smiled an replied that it may have only taken him 5 minutes how to draw the picture but it took him 40 years to learn how to draw it.

Can you imagine taking 40 years to learn how to do something?  What about 25, 10, or even 5?

Are you willing to pay the price of time in order to realize your ambitions?

When it comes to achieving your dreams, time should be nourishment to what it is you want to accomplish. Understand that things cannot be hurried, they will unfold in their own time. If it takes 5 years to achieve your goal, know that the 5 years will be worth your effort.  Those years are going to pass anyway.  You have a choice, you can spend it preparing for success or waste the time thinking an dreaming about what you’d really like to do.

Does several years seem like a long time to you?  Think about how fast the last 5 years of your life have gone by…what did you do during that time to make achievement possible?  If you’d been working steadily toward your goal all that time, you could have achieved it by now.

Don’t let another 5 years pass you by without pursuing your ambitions.  The time is going to pass by anyway. Do you want to look back 5 years from now and be in the same position of wanting to pursue your goals?  The choice is yours. You can start now or choose to give up hope of achieving your goals.  If you really want to achieve your goals, the amount of time it takes won’t hinder you at all…as a matter of a fact, it will pass by quickly.

Impatient people want things to have overnight; however, success don’t happen overnight, you have to make room to let it happen.

Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting. It’s the attitude to have while achieving your dreams. It’s the heart of self-discipline.

The #1 Habit to Acquire to Be Successful

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Hands down, the #1 habit you can acquire to become successful is developing a morning routine!  Having a morning routine is not just about getting up early and performing activities, it’s setting an intention to put yourself FIRST.  It’s a statement that You are Important!

It’s important to include something for your mind, body and soul in your morning routine. The quality of your routine is more important than the quantity.  Your morning routine can be as long (or short) as you deem necessary.

Some of the benefits I receive from my morning routine includes:

  • Productivity
  • Creativity
  • Mental Health

It sets the tone of my day by putting myself first.

The activities I perform in my routine includes: prayer, LIVE broadcasts (for accountability), eating, blogging (and/or journaling), social media posts, studying, working out and meditation.

My day begins FIRST with gratitude and setting my intentions for the day.

If you’re having trouble getting up early, get accountability.  For example, if you want to include working out early in your routine, arrange to meet someone at the gym or schedule a personal trainer to train you.

If you want to be more positive, optimistic and have control of your day, develop a morning routine.

If you’re not aware, I film a LIVE Facebook broadcast called “Transform Your Life in 15 Minutes!”  This is a great way to begin your morning routine.  It’s 5-minute exercises – one each for the Mind, Body & Soul.

Your Invisible Talisman

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We each carry around an invisible talisman with one side being PMA and the other side being NMA (negative mental attitude).  The default is NMA.  This stems from our childhood.  A few years ago UCLA did a study and reported that the average one year child hears the word “No” more than 400 times a day!  In light of this, it’s important to set your intention EVERY morning by deciding to have a PMA.

Having a Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) is the link between success and happiness.

Here are 5 benefits to having a PMA:

  1. Boosts motivation
  2. Increases productivity
  3. Leads to accomplishments
  4. Boosts feelings of well-being
  5. Attracts others

Remember, your subconscious mind is a recorder that is recording everything you say or think.  The subconscious mind only knows the word “Yes”. By saying “I can’t do …..” your subconscious mind will agree with you which will ultimately result in you not being able to do it. Therefore, it’s important that you are careful with your words and thoughts.

How to Determine What You Really Want to Achieve

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Determining your purpose, what you want to achieve in life, can be a very difficult task.  You have so many choices and opportunities, so many different directions you can go.  It’s wonderful to have so many choices, but sometimes it makes choosing what you really want to even more confusing.

Purpose is the cornerstone of self-discipline.  With a clearly defined purpose you have a specific direction to where to focus your energy.

Today I’m going to share with you a 4-step process that will enable you to analyze the many options available to you and select the one major life’s purpose you want to achieve deep within your heart.

Step 1:  Limitless Wishing

This step involves using your imagination.  Close your eyes and imaging having anything your heart desires. What is it?  Write them down.  There’s no limit – you can have anything that you want.

Step 2:  Wishful Imaging

In this step, take one of your desires from above and imagine what your life would be like if it were true.  (Close your eyes for this step, also.)  What would your life be like?  What would you be doing?  What would you be wearing?  Who would you be hanging out with?  What would you be driving?  Get as detailed as possible.  Make sure you pay particular attention to any feelings that you may experience while imaging.

Step 3:  Creative Biography

For this step, you’re going to answer the following questions: Deep in my heart, what do I really want to do?  What is my purpose in life? What do I value above all else? What would I like to be remembered for?

After you’ve answered these questions, take out a pen and paper and write down your eulogy. Yes, you’ve read it correctly: your eulogy.  Put as much detail in it as you can.  What is it you would want it to say?  Does it include your birthday?  Your accomplishments? What you want to be remember for?  Have fun with this step.

Step 4: Write Your Personal Statement of Purpose

In this final step, you’re going to write down your statement of purpose.  You can be a broad as you like or detailed.  This step is meant to act as a focusing tool, not an actual blueprint for achieving your goals.

It may be helpful to read an example.  Here’s one taken from Amilia Earhart taken from when she was a child:

“When I grow up, I’m going to have adventures and show the world that women can be as heroic as well as men.”

These  4 steps will help you use your intuition and imagination to discover your major life’s purpose you want to achieve deep within your heart.