The soul tends always to judge others by what it thinks of itself. -Giacomo Leopardi-
Despite our best efforts, we all judge others. It might be over small things, like a seeing a woman with tight-fitting clothes. Or it might be over bigger issues, such as when we treat others differently solely because of their mental health, singling them out as different, strange or someone to avoid.
Understand that our perceptions of others reveal so much about our own personality.
Studies have found that how positively you see other people shows how satisfied you are with your own life, and how much you are liked by others.
Whereas a huge list of negative personality traits are associated with viewing others negatively – things like narcissism, antisocial behavior and other various personality disorders – not to mention there’s a greater likelihood of depression as well.
No one likes to be judged. Why? Because judging hurts – ourselves and those that we judge. Therefore, we must be very careful and stop doing it.
If you’re struggling to stop judging others, here are some tips to help:
- If you see someone who is very different from you in physical appearance or in age or in economic status, use your mind to send them love rather than a judgmental thought.
- Make a daily effort to look upon others (including yourself) without condemnation. Every judgment takes you away from your goal of peace. Keep in mind that you do not define anyone with your judgment; you only define yourself as someone who needs to judge.
- Notice the acts of kindness that other people do, rather than their wrongdoing. We are all good, decent, loving souls, but we occasionally get lost. When you can focus on the good in another and hold that in your mind, you are acting from your higher self.
We should never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path; but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.