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By Changing Your Mind, You change Everything!


What is the first step in “change”?  It’s being aware.  Today’s lesson about awareness.

Do you ever wonder why 3 people can witness the same event and come away with 3 different versions of what happened?  I used the number 3, but you can insert just about any number into the scenario.

The reason that happens is because you see what you believe. What that means is that you see that you believe to be true. What you see is what you expect to see because of how you interpret the information from your senses based on your personality, your values and your attitudes etc.

We are surrounded by approximately 2 million bits of information per second at any given time.

Now think about it – that’s a lot of information! Of that amount, our nervous system can only process about 128 bits per second.

How does the brain reduce the data to 128 bits? By filtering it, by ignoring, distorting and/or generalizing the input of data.

Think about this……

If a person’s brain is hard wired with the belief that “money doesn’t grow on trees”, then the person’s brain will grab onto the 128 bits per second of information that support that idea that it’s difficult to make a living and will ignore the rest of the information.

There is another person who is totally convinced and he truly believe that money is easy to come by, then that person will experience and see only information that supports abundance in his life.

In this example, these two people and their brains live in on the same planet and maybe with very similar circumstances,  however, the reality they perceive is totally different. 

What’s one simple way to change your mind? Be grateful.  Feelings of gratitude directly activates brain regions associated with the neurotransmitter dopamine. – that’s the “feel good” chemical our body produces naturally.

You are in charge of your mind – and by changing your mind – you change your reality – that changes everything!




In my last post I talked about the acronym meaning of GIFTS, in the next few posts I’m going to share some life lessons in each of those attributes….starting with GRATITUDE:

What was your “beginning” story?

Were you born to a teenaged mother that was trying herself to figure out life?

Were you raised in foster homes feeling unwanted?

Were you molested, abandoned and emotionally abused when you were a child?

Today’s Life Lesson comes from someone who experienced all of the above, but despite all of that and much more she overcame adversity by finding gratitude.

Whatever situation you find yourself in – are you going to let that define you for the rest of your life? or despite what is going on are you are ready to move past it?  The choice is yours.

No matter what situation or circumstances you find yourself in, you have reasons to be grateful – this is known as unconditional gratitude.  It’s about having a “no matter what” type of attitude of gratitude. This means no matter what is happening in your life, you will find a reason to be grateful.

All you need to fulfill this attitude are two things: trust & faith:

When things are not as you would like them to be, trust where you’ve been in your journey and have faith in where you are going.  In other words, know that in your past you’ve overcome things and understand that you will get through whatever your are going through now.

Here are 3 steps to help you  go through pain:

  • Step 1:  Surrender – let go of expectation of how you thought the situation or outcome was supposed to be.
  • Step 2: Work – work on you through personal development.
  • Step 3: Live – in unconditional gratitude.

When you change your perspective, you change your life. Having a mindset of unconditional gratitude is where your abundance lives.

This is from the book Open your G.I.F.T.S  by Kim Coles.


Open Your G.I.F.T.S

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We all have powerful gifts inside of us. It’s time to open your gifts and share them with the world.

G.I.F.T.S is a acronym that stands for the following:


Develop an attitude of gratitude. This means making it a habit to express thankfulness and appreciation in all parts of your life on a regular basis.

No matter what your life looks like at the moment, there is certainly something to be grateful for.  By focusing on those things, it will fill you heart and you will feel appreciation in the moment.


Your intention creates your reality. This powerful concept is about living with deliberateness. Intentional living will help you to take greater control of your life. Set an intention on how you want to experience your day and also set intentions for activities that occur in your day.  For example:  Set an intentional on the outcome of the phone call before making the call.


Forgiveness opens your heart and creates more room for prosperity and love to live there. Carrying grudges is like keeping a bad apple in the bunch with good apples.

The gas from the decaying apples will affect the good ones and eventually they will got bad too.  In the case of carrying grudges (or holding onto negativity) – that negativity will overpower your positivity and give you a negative outlook.  Even if you don’t believe so. Forgive others who have harmed you and forgive yourself – let go!


Instead of paying attention to what you do wrong – celebrate what you do right!  Remember when you were young how great it felt when you received a gold star?  This small deflection will have a similar positive effect on your mindset. Give yourself many gold stars each day!

Celebrate: Waking up, hugging your kids, smiling at strangers, making a delicious dinner – all the small stuff you accomplish during the day.


Self love is vital to living one’s life fully! What do you love about yourself – both inside and out? When living in the practice of self-love your decisions will come from an inspired place and always in your best interest.

We all have powerful gifts inside of us. It’s time to open your gifts, share them with others and enjoy a more fulfilled life.

This is from the book Open your G.I.F.T.S  by Kim Coles.




Moving Beyond Your Fear







Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.

Today we will be discussing the 5 lessons learned by Haw.

As we move further on in the story of Who Moved My Cheese by Dr. Spencer Johnson.

Haw begins to realize that change probably would not have taken him by surprise if he had been watching what was happening all along and anticipated change.

LESSON 1:  Smell the Cheese often so you know when it is getting old.

Haw then realized that the times he felt his best in the Maze was when he was moving along.

LESSON 2:  Movement in a new direction helps you find new Cheese.

Next, Haw discovered that what nourished his soul was letting go and trusting what lay ahead for him – even though he didn’t know what it was.

LESSON 3:  When you move beyond your fear, you feel free.

As he continued his journey, he began to paint a picture in his mind in great detail, sitting in the middle of a pile of his favorite Cheese.  He saw himself eating the many cheese he liked and he enjoyed what he saw.  The more clearly he saw the image of himself enjoying New Cheese, the more real and believable it became.

LESSON 4:  Imaging myself enjoying new Cheese, even before I find it lead me to it.

Haw wondered why he had always thought that change would lead to something worse. Now he realized that change could lead to something better. He raced through the Maze with greater strength and agility until he found bits of New Cheese.  He entered into a Cheese Station but it was empty – someone had already been there.

LESSON 5: The quicker you let go of old cheese, the sooner you find new cheese.

Use these lessons from Haw to help you adjust to change.


Stagnation is death.


Stagnation is death. If you don’t change, you die.  It’s that simple. It’s that scary! By Leonard Sweet

If you’re not willing to change, don’t expect your life to either!


Before you continue reading, really stop and answer the following question:

Why are you resistant to change?

Is it: Fear? Doubt? Loss of control? Excess uncertainty?  Lack of security?


Continuing with the story in Who Moved My Cheese…

The next day, Hem and Haw returned to Cheese Station C, but the situation hadn’t changed.

Haw asked Hem what happened to Sniff & Scurry and Hem scoffed, “What would they know?  They’re just simple mice.  They just respond to what happens.  We’re little people.  We’re smarter.”

Haw then suggested they maybe they should stop analyzing the situation so much and get going to find some New Cheese.

How do you handle similar situations when all of a sudden you’re faced with change? 

Do you respond to what happens? or Do you hem and haw while analyzing the situation?  or Do you stay in denial?


By the way, if you’re wondering what happened to Sniff & Scurry since they had nothing else on their mind besides finding New Cheese they reached their new goal and ended up at Cheese Station N – which had a great supply of New Cheese.

Now ask yourself this:

What would you do if you weren’t afraid?





How do you know when it’s time to let go?


Growth is painful; change is painful, but nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.

 How do you know when it’s time to let go?

Today we continue our discussion of Who Moved My Cheese by Dr. Spencer Johnson.

Yesterday’s Wall Message:  Having Cheese Makes You Happy.

As time went on, Sniff and Scurry continued their routine of arriving early and inspecting the area for changes; whereas, Hem and Haw’s confidence grew into the arrogance of success – so much so that they didn’t notice what was happening.

As you can imagine, one day they arrived at Cheese Station C and discovered there was no cheese.


They weren’t surprised since they noticed the supply of cheese had been getting smaller every day.  They were prepared for the inevitable and instinctively knew what to do.  They put on their running shoes which hung conveniently around their necks.

They did not over analyze things. To them, the problem and the answer were both simple:  The situation at Cheese Station C had changed and so they decided to change.

They were quickly off in search of New Cheese.


They had not been paying attention to the small changes that had been taking place each day, so they took for granted that their Cheese would be there.  They were unprepared.

Their behavior was not attractive nor productive.  Finding Cheese was their way of getting what they thought they needed to be happy.

What is it for you?  Is it having material things, enjoying good health, developing a spiritual sense of well-being?

Because Cheese was important to them, the two Little people spent a long time trying to decide what to do.  Haw became depressed. He had made future plans based on this Cheese.

That night, they went home discouraged, but before they left, Haw wrote on the wall:

The More Important Your Cheese Is to You, The More You Want to Hold on To It.

It’s time for you to reflect on how you handle your cheese:

When changes happen (and we know they do), how do you know when it’s time to let go?



On my daily (Mon-Sat) LIVE Facebook broadcast, Transform Your Life in 15 Minutes, we are discussing the book, Who Moved My Cheese? This is a simple parable that reveals profound truths about change.

These are the 4 characters in the book.  Do you identify with one, more or all of them at some time or another?


Sniff – The Acceptor: sniffs out change early (before it happens), he senses and responds to change before anyone else, and he gets excited about trying new things and wants you to get excited with him.

Scurry – The Enthusiast: he embraces change and quickly rushes to action, he can run run run and do work from early to late, he gets frustrated when obstacles are in his way but he seeks to run around them.

Little People:

Hem – The Destructor: does not like the idea of change, he sees change as a big threat, and he denies change and resist it out of fear.

Haw – The Resister: he makes noises and challenges the reasons for change, he’s hesitant at first, but he’s open-minded to learning new stuff, and he has the ability to empathize and connect well with others.

These four imaginary characters are intended to represent the simple and complex parts of you, regardless of your age, gender, race or nationality. The mice are simple-minded creatures and the little people have complex brains that has feelings, emotions and beliefs. At times, you may find you approach situations as mice and other times as little people.

In this story, there’s also cheese and a maze.

The cheese represents what you want to have in life.  Is it:

  • A good job?
  • A loving relationship/family?
  • Money?
  • Respect?
  • Good health?
  • Peace of mind?
  • Less stress and lots of success?

What is it for you?

The maze represents where you spend your time looking for what you want. Do you spend it:

  • The organization your work in?
  • With family?
  • The community you live in?
  • In front of the TV?
  • Stalking people (oops, I mean browsing) on Facebook?

Where do you spend your time looking for “cheese”

Join me each day, for the remainder of this month, as we explore life in the maze with Sniff, Scurry, Hem & Haw.


5 Ways to Bring Restoration into Your Life.

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Whether you are dealing with a long day at work, stressful class, a break up, lost in faith or stalled dreams, here are 5 ways to help you restore yourself:

 Surround yourself with support.

 Do things that make you feel fulfilled.

 Pamper yourself.

 Be grateful.

 Allow yourself peaceful solitude.

Have a Restore-ful Day! ✌🏾



Forgive Yourself!

Are you beating yourself up by saying things like you’re terrible at time management, or that you have no will power or self-discipline – or even saying you’re not organized??

If so, STOP IT! These negative thoughts are not serving you and they are flat out WRONG!

Let me explain why:

There are two types of procrastination:  destructive & productive procrastination.


Are you working on a creative project that does not have deadline but you find it hard to stay fully focused?  Well, this type of procrastination is part of the creative process! If you’re not getting the results you want, give the project you’re working on a little bit of time.

Set it aside – even if it’s for a few weeks – and focus your energy on something else.  Come back to it later and you’ll have fresher eyes.


This is the type of procrastination I’ve been focusing on in my earlier blogs this month.  It’s when you are avoiding completing a task that you know will have negative consequences if you don’t finish it.

But don’t beat yourself up!  Understand that procrastination is not a form of laziness and it has nothing to do with work.  It is actually a coping mechanism for dealing with stress – and it’s not the work stress – it’s much much larger!  These are other stresses you have in your life such as financial stresses or stresses with your relationships.

Here’s a 3-Step Process that will help you eliminate procrastinating:

  1. Forgive yourself! This will stop the never-ending cycle.
  2. Time Travel – Ask yourself, “What would your future self do?
  3. Get Started!

Understand that when you are procrastinating, it’s a subconscious desire to feel good right now so you can feel a little bit of stress relief.  So stop beating yourself up!

Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself, and win or lose – just do it!






Maximize Your Powers

Do you:

  • look for good in every situation?
  • find the valuable lesson in every difficulty?
  • look for solutions in every problem?
  • think and constantly take about your goals?

If you do these things, you are considered an optimist!

Productive people motivate themselves by becoming optimists. This is one of the two powers you’ll want to maximize in order to get things done.

 The second important requirement for being happy and productive is for you to guard and nurture your energy levels at all times. Your energy level declines as the day goes on, so it’s best to leverage your time earlier in the day for your most important tasks.

Did you know that the most productive brain time occurs within 2-3 hours after you wake up?  For most people, this is the time when they are trying to get themselves together to get to work.

This is just one of the reasons I advocate getting up early and using that time to do things that are important to you.

Did you also know that the successful CEO’s of major corporations actually get most of their work done BEFORE going into the office?  They use the early hours in the morning at home – why? Because of what I mentioned earlier….it’s their most productive time and also it’s the best uninterrupted time.

In order to get up early, that means you’ll have to get to bed early.  Productive people also take days off from any brain-work and they even sleep in on the weekends to maintain optimal energy.

Your body is like a machine that uses food, water and rest to generate energy that you can use to accomplish important tasks in your life and work. When you are fully rested, you can accomplish up to 5x as much then when you’re tired or burned out.

So get motivated and become an optimistic energy-hogger who’s fully rest and GET THINGS DONE!